Mum who fought to be sterilised at 22 after five miscarriages has ‘no regrets’

A woman who fought to be sterilised at the age of 22 has no regrets about having the procedure done while she was young.

Stacey Blackwell was over the moon when she won approval to be sterilised.

With two sons, Cody Jay, 10, and Taio Jai, 5, and experiencing unpleasant pregnancies, Stacey was adamant that she never wanted to fall pregnant again and fought to have the procedure.

The care worker, who is now 27, says that she severely suffered from her mental health during her pregnancies and decided she would never be able to go through another pregnancy.

She added: “I really struggled with both of my pregnancies and as soon as I saw the midwife after having my youngest son I told her I wanted to be sterilised because I couldn’t go through being pregnant again.

“I didn’t care about how young I was I just knew that I could never be pregnant again so I was determined to be sterilised.

“At the six-week check after having Taio Jay I also told the doctor that I wanted to be sterilised.

“I listed all of the reasons why and I was referred to the hospital where I was seen by three consultants.

“The first two consultants did not approve, but luckily when I saw the third consultant who was also a male he agreed with me and approved the procedure.

“I was so happy. It was like a weight being lifted off of my shoulders.”

Stacey became bulimic during her pregnancy with her eldest son as she saw herself as being fat and not pregnant.

She also suffers from other mental health issues that she could not be medicated for during the pregnancies.

And after suffering five miscarriages between both of her sons, it was also discovered that she couldn’t carry girls.

Stacey said: “After being told no by the first two consultants I felt so defeated.

“I didn’t want to have to go back on to contraception because that also messes with my mental health.

“It just never agreed with me so being sterilised seemed like the only way to solve my problems.

“I didn’t want any more children because I never wanted to go through being pregnant again. I was sure of what I wanted and I knew I wouldn’t have any regrets.

“I was determined to have it done.

“I even told my partner, Sean, 27, that I would be having it done and he could leave me if he didn’t agree because I wasn’t going to be having more kids.

“But he was really supportive of my decision.”

Before being sterilised Stacey recalls that previous medics had warned her about regretting the decision because she was so young and might change her mind in the future.

However, the mum-of-two said that she spent a long time thinking about her decision and five years later still has no regrets about being sterilised at 22-years-old.

She said: “It’s my own body. I spent a long time thinking about it and looking into it.

“And although there have been some symptoms, I don’t regret my decision at all.

“I was so happy when I finally got a yes because I felt like I had been listened to.

“I knew it was in my best interest to have the procedure done and I knew it wasn’t worth risking my healthy by getting pregnant and having more children.

“After it was done I felt so happy. I didn’t have to worry anymore.

“I am now even hoping to have a hysterectomy because I know I won’t want my sterilisation reversed so I would rather just have everything taken out.”